What is it about having other, like minded people around that can aid in the process of bettering oneself?
I am sure that we can all come up with one friend that we love to have around. Someone that encourages us, fills the room with energy, makes us feel like a million bucks, while being able to empathize and truly care for what we are going through. And they always seem to have that “one” thing to say when it needs to be said to turn a bad situation into a bearable one.
What about the opposite? That friend who is constantly complaining, or gossiping and tearing others down. Either way, our closest friends can either be helpers or hindrances to our success. I personally believe this is a huge secret to anyone succeeding when it comes to fitness or even life goals.
It has been said that, “ You are the sum of the 5 people you hang around most.” What that simply means is that it can be hard to make the necessary changes in ones life without closely identifying those around you and what their mindset is. In fact, keeping the wrong company can totally destroy any headway that you make towards your improvements. You plan to eat well and exercise often but you constantly surround yourself with individuals that eat out for every meal, and always have an excuse why they didn’t attend the gym? Thats a very tough situation to find any success.
In addition, I see clients who are frustrated that they are not receiving the support from their spouse or family that they are looking for. “ Why do you go to that place?”, or “If people don’t love you the way you are, then they shouldn’t be your friends.” In my opinion, this is the worst kind of company to receive any suggestions from at all, and a lot of times what they are saying to you is actually a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves. It’s called projection and it can really knock someone off track. Trust me, I’ve been there.
So what’s the answer really? Well in the simplest sense, it is to be very intentional about the company you keep.
“Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.” We aren’t all blessed with the most supportive family on earth, or friends that totally buy into everything we go through – nor should they. Because at the end of the day, it’s YOUR journey alone to walk through. The key is to seek out those that share your dreams, visions, and goals, and are willing to have your back and hold you accountable until completion.